1st August 17

Isn’t it weird how certain topics still feel like they’re completely taboo? It feels weird to talk about some things even though they’re completely normal and a part of most of our daily lives. Some of these things are harder for men to talk about, and some of these things are more looked down on if women dare to speak about them, sexuality being one topic where the latter definitely applies. So dear readers, I want to know: why is it so frowned upon for us women to talk openly about sex?


We’re a gender who are rigidly controlled by stereotypes and we’re so often expected to stick to these. We must be docile, calm, timid and shy, whilst still managing to appear intelligent and strong headed (but not too strong headed!!) and passionate and exciting. It’s hard being a woman. It’s difficult being told in many contrasting statements exactly how your gender should behave.


It’s 2017 and these taboos need to end. Not just for women, but for everyone. We need to feel free and open to discuss the important matters, such as sex, without feeling shy and scared and worried that everyone else will judge us. In reality, subjects are only taboo because few people are willing to be that first person to step out of the crowd and talk about them. As soon as one voice makes itself heard, exclamations of ‘oh I do that too!’, ‘I like that too!’ and ‘you’re right, that needs to be changed’ will suddenly be heard in their hundreds. Because lots of us are doing it, we’re all just too scared to be the first to shout about it.


Well, consider that first voice to have made itself known. I’ve previously discussed the brilliant work in beating the stigmas surrounding sex that Scarlet Ladies are currently doing, and they’re still at it, helping to make the world a more sexually positive and stigma free place. Their current campaign,  #ITalkSex is one that I feel really excited in being involved in. It’s a project encouraging all of us, women especially, to become more open about sex in order to make it a safer and more enjoyable space.


The #ITalkSex Campaign brings together women from every walk of life. We are united by our belief that by talking openly about what we need, how we feel or what we’ve gone through, we are helping women everywhere to find the confidence and empowerment to accept and love themselves for who they really are.


Because talking about sex is more than just swapping gossip and sharing stories. It encourages an open space where girls are able to feel more comfortable sharing their experiences, whether these are positive or negative. In 2017, female sexuality is still often associated with shame and this is because we’re not talking about it enough.


We need to be open about sex so that we can teach women that her body is her own and is not something which she should feel ashamed of. To show her that she has the same rights to her body that a man has to his. We need to be more open about sex so that girls can actually learn about their own bodies and their own anatomies and not be scared to ask what’s right and what’s wrong. We need to talk sex so that girls can be taught from a young age what’s safe and what isn’t. We need to talk sex so that everyone understands the difference between consensual and non-consensual, and so victims can feel comfortable opening up about this.


The only way to encourage women to fully embrace and love themselves is to talk openly and educationally on sex and I know that this is a movement that I want to be a part of.


If you want to help Scarlet Ladies to change perceptions as I am, head on over to their #ITalkSex campaign website to learn more about how we can all get involved and be part of this movement.