2nd October 18

Hi internet! Firstly I’d like to draw attention to the fact that this is the second blog post I’ve written in a week, which, by my old standards isn’t that impressive, but considering over the last few months I’ve only posted about 5 times on here, I feel like I may finally be progressing away from my writers block.


Today I’m posting to share some really exciting news which has been under wraps for some time now. Many of you will of heard of (and if you haven’t, why haven’t you?!) the amazing work that Scarlet Ladies do at their events throughout London and in spreading female sex positivity in general.


The Scarlet Ladies are a group of amazing women whose goal is to make it more widely acceptable to talk about sex, to empower women and to change lives. They’re an incredible, open and inviting organisation and they’re amazing at spreading the message of how important female empowerment really is.


As well as the usual members events and talks which they host, The Scarlet Ladies run some really cool campaigns with the intentions of sharing their findings on sex and spreading sex positivity. Last year, you may have heard of the #ITalkSex campaign which they ran, which aimed to encourage women to talk openly about sex without fear. The campaign was a really eye opening one and it helped to raise some incredible awareness for why women should be openly discussing sex without feeling afraid to do so.


This year, The Scarlet Ladies are back with another exceptional campaign which is kicking off this month, and I’m lucky enough to be an ambassador representing it this year.


The new campaign is called #TalkSexChangeLives and it shares the findings of a survey conducted by The Scarlet Ladies team in which 555 women from around the world were questioned on their attitudes towards sex and sexuality. The results of this survey are being used within the campaign to help to further empower women, and shed some light on views towards sex.

As an ambassador, I’ll be representing and helping to share just some of the findings from this survey (but if you keep an eye on The Scarlet Ladies Twitter, you’ll be able to see all of the findings and updates as they’re released).

Often, we all consider sex with it framed in the context of people who are in relationships. Sex when you’re single is viewed as wild and free. But in reality that “young, free and single” rhetoric can be a bit of a myth.  Being young or being single can mean uncomfortable sex for women.

In fact, of the group surveyed by The Scarlet Ladies, 49% of 25-34 year olds reported that sex makes them feel uncomfortable. Other findings included that:

  • Women who find sex to some degree uncomfortable, are disproportionately likely to be straight – (67%) – and disproportionately unlikely to be bisexual (15%)
  • 40% of single women find sex uncomfortable, compared to 27% of all women.

It’s a lot to unpack, but I think it’s unbelievably important that we address the question of why such a high percentage of single women feel uncomfortable during sex.

In today’s society especially, there are SO many different expectations which are piled onto women which can make us feel like we’re never enough. This insecurity can infiltrate every aspect of our lives, even when it comes to sex.


I’m so excited to be a part of The Scarlet Ladies #TalkSexChangeLives campaign to help to draw some attention to these findings and spread some awareness of how women can claim back their bodies when it comes to sex and feeling empowered.


For more information on The Scarlet Ladies #TalkSexChangeLives campaign, be sure to keep an eye on their page!

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